So a few weeks ago my wife and I were at town seeing a couple of friends at a bar, it was their 10 year wedding anniversary so everything was pretty over the top, we had these beautiful limos, dressed all fancy, having an awesome night until we went into this one particular bar. We knew this bar was predominately populated with younger people but we were okay with that, we were at that point in the night were we just wanted to have fun, no worries. Well everything was fine until one young man tried to ruin it for us. He kept on coming up to us with a few of his buddies saying things like “You’re too old for this place, leave or else”. Keeping in mind this is totally out of the blue. He kept on coming up at different points in the night letting us know how old we were and to leave, shouting more and more offensive things as the night went on (and I’m sure for him the alcohol too). Each time I would tell him pretty much the same thing; “Relax, we’re here to have fun just like you, we don’t want any trouble.” Now that doesn’t make me a coward or scared, that makes me not want to beat this kid to a pulp in front of everyone and ruin his social life by making him the kid that got beaten by an old man lol. Anyway, he still wouldn’t stop and when his insults became directly racially aimed at my Chinese wife, I began to take the steps to react.
Now when I say this kid was young, he was probably about mid to late twenties, young for an old guy like me lol. I approached him at the other end of the bar and asked him, still very calmly to stop or there would be trouble and that neither of us would want that. As you’d expect, he got up with two of his buddies and came real close, still insulting my family, really viciously this time. He was very near the door, one of those doors you push and it opens, no handle. He grabbed my collar and leaned back with all of his weight to throw me through the door, landing outside in an alleyway. The whole thing sounds so much like a movie but it did happen I swear. So I got up and assumed my stance, he and a big crown ended up gathering round outside. They seemed to be laughing at my stance, something that I don’t understand really. All the movies I’ve seen have had a huge beating from the guy in this stance, I think they seemed to think it’s a fake sort of fighting or something. Anyway, the young guy swung which I deflected with my right hand quickly following his hook with a hard hit to the neck. He stumbled back looking surprised, I think this was the moment he knew I had fighting experience. The crowd looked surprised too, but the surprise was more of a “oh yes this is going to be good” kind of surprise. He tried jabbing me with his lack lustre punches skimming my face but never actually landing, each and every time he missed I would simply follow it up. He was too consumed with rage to realise my tactic, needless to say, he lost and when he gave up and ran away, people literally cheered for me, which got me thinking. People really love seeing people fight huh? It reminded me of this book I read a while back called the professor In the cage by Jonathan Gotschall – why men fight and why we like to watch. He puts some science into the whole fighting scene, linking back to ancestral roots of fighting and hunting tendencies. That explains the crowd and the young guy that initiated the fight but it doesn’t explain my approach to the fight. There was never a point when I was mad at the guy, the only reason I confronted him was because my friends were getting upset at his remarks. Even when he swung, I was taking in hat he was going, processing it and coming up with a solution, I was never frantic or rage filled, I simply won the fight by thinking a little. Its moments like these I realise how much Kung-Fu really has made a difference in my life. It has made me calm, I’m not like that young guy, I don’t get passionate about trying to hurt someone, I think about it. I use patience and discipline to allow a positive outcome for myself, that’s one of the most important lessons a man can gain.
Hope you guys enjoyed my little personal experience lol, its not typical for me to get into physical confrontations, especially at my age and point in life but sometimes they cant be helped. I defended myself that’s all. Again, if you have any questions about this incident or anything I general you can send me an email at THIS address.